NOT JUST ON ST. VALENTINE'S DAY!

"You don't care any more! It's all about you you you! You are too selfish and self-centred.  This is not the ‘you’ I got married to'"    screams Natalie.  “But I'm giving you back what you always give me! You love satisfying yourself before looking at any one else! My attitude is what you made me to be!   I'm a survivor!” Screams and replies Henry.  This is a typical day for Henry and Natalie who are usually lovey dovey which has lingered for a while. 
I had an opportunity to chat with this young beautiful couple and one thing I found out to be a great relationship killer is Pride and lack of good communication (dialogue). 
It is absolutely fine to be upset because we are human.  But no matter how upset you are, as far as your relationship is concerned, if you don't discuss it you destroy it! 
Making assumptions is wrong. It’s better to find out what the matter is than drawing conclusions on any issue that you are concerned about.   A wise woman will always build her home, a more great reason why you should never allow any unresolved issue lingering in your home.  No matter how egoistic your man is, create that room for dialogue and deal with your issues, not that you really enjoy being the one to make the move, but you are also living by good example.  Your home is supposed to be your sweet haven where you escape from the daily hustle, therefore make it your home indeed.  Having that great dialogue gives you great opportunity to re-discover yourselves, see things in positive perspectives and appreciate each other more.  
Husbands/men need to learn more and practise treating their women more tenderly. It's unfair to treat your woman like she is under you. You are supposed to be  your woman's protector and how you treat her will reflect on how she treats you. She is a true reflection of your persona. A man who loves and cherishes his wife loves himself!  Don't be proud to draw your woman closer when you notice she's not in her best mood, look and in general great disposition after all she's the same woman you brainstorm with, make love to and lean on when you are weak. 
So as Valentine’s Day is just around the corner if your relationship has sort of had some bad times this would be a great opportunity for you two to  get together, have a  warm and real conversation over a nice candle light dinner or whatever you deem fit and start all over!  and if yours is as new as new, it is definitely not a bad head start for you to imbibe some healthy relationship tips! Ladies remember to wow your man in and out of bed, what wonderful way to stay emotionally and spiritually connected! And to continuously enjoy unity of purpose in your relationships (marriages).        
Let the fun this season brings fill your homes now and always.

Happy Valentine’s Day.xx