MAKE OR BREAK

Fiona has met a lot of people in her life time. She's probably one of the persons I know that always have people around them, both sexes too. Sometimes I try to understand her, what brings these attractions and sustains these friendships.
Attracting all manner of people into your life is flattering but attracting the right people and maintaining/sustaining your relationships with this category of people is a real achievement which brings me to the subject I want to discuss- FRIENDSHIP and the laws that govern good friendship.   
Each time we meet new people, we are excited and expectant with so much energy and enthusiasm, over time, it is either these friendships blossom and continue to evolve or they do not. No matter the people that come into our lives and no matter how 'right' they may seem to suit our lives, there are many reasons why some of these friendships do not develop and continuously evolve. Except a relationship is no longer worthy of maintaining and sustaining, perhaps it has become unhealthy to your mind or does not bring you any good but stress, if you do want any friendship to grow, develop, blossom and continue to grow in the right direction, you must make effort, work hard, sow the right seeds, and keep watering those seeds, for that friendship to stay alive- it's called nurturing. 
Sometimes, a lot of factors can prevent us from going those extra miles to sustain and maintain good friendships like distance, finance, people's ego, pride, self and all manner of mind battles, it's up to us to deal with these barriers. To get a friendship to work and to sustain that friendship always starts with 'you' and 'I'-the man/woman in the mirror, the people involved.
Having a better understanding of the true meaning of friendship is powerful.  I said powerful because a lot of us on a daily basis use the phrase 'my friend' and even re-phrase it to suit the way we feel towards our 'friends' such as bestie or bestie of life which has gone viral in its usage showing how much we are attached to our friends. 

According to Alex Lickerman of Psychology today, friendship suggests a bond between people who have made a similar commitment and possibly headed in the same direction and share similar purpose. The Japanese use the term kenzoku to connote such a bond. This bond could be with a brother, sister, cousin, mother, father, husband or any family member as well as any person you meet along the path of your life quest and pursuits. This type of bond is never tampered with by time or distance. 

  The truth is if you want to sustain and maintain a friendship which you think is worth it, you must be ready to make yourself available and make sacrifices. I mentioned in the beginning of this page that certain factors such as pride, ego and various mind battles can get in the way of our efforts sometimes, but what do we do? 
Finding a way to break those barriers takes a lot of strength and maturity. Break those walls if you think that friendship is worth maintaining. I'm going to be sharing with you the laws that govern good friendship. In practice there are too many laws any one can come up with, but here are few of what I believe in:
1. Treat people right: The word 'right' is relative, which means what you consider right could be different from what I consider right. To approach this point fairly I would say you treat your friend exactly the way you want to be treated.  
2. Place a high value on your friendship: whatever you value you will give your attention to. If you treat your friendship with little or no regard, you lose the natural connection.          
3: learn to keep your secrets secret: Your friend trusts you enough to boldly tell you her/his secrets! Don't break that trust!

4. be true: Being real and true to yourself first will help you to naturally stay true and real in friendship.
5. Believe in the ability of your friend:  This emphasises the importance of your friend, holding your friend in high esteem.  In other words, celebrate your friends.
6. Have a forgiving heart: Because you are human too, don’t let it linger, forgiveness gives you room to start again, if that friendship is genuinely worth it. 
7. Pay attention to what you say:  Don't talk any how because your words are beyond powerful, either they will heal your friend and build your friendship or it will live scars forever and destroy your friendship!
8. Don't promote gossips: don't meddle with gossips. Sometimes we get involved with unnecessary chit chat without knowing, avoid it! It slows down your progress

9. Learn to take responsibility: Taking responsibility can be in any area of friendship.  It is a sign of maturity and desire to keep your friendship going. 
10. Show your caring side:   This cements your friendship.  Who doesn't want to hang around someone that genuinely cares? 
11. Learn not to be overbearing: it's nice to let your friend be. If you always want to dominate your friendship or rather want it your way at all times, I guarantee your friendship won't be needed long enough.
12. be sincere to one another: as simple as saying 'let's call a spade a spade' 
13.  Finally, be there for your friends when they rejoice and when they fall.

“Great Friends are hard to find, difficult to leave and impossible to forget”